Many people who seek psychotherapy don’t meet official criteria for having a diagnosable mental disorder. Instead, they are denying the realities of life that they simply don’t want to accept. The more they refuse to acknowledge these realities, the more dysfunctional their lives become. They often seek therapy in hope that the therapist will help them prevent the realities of life from occurring! In short, they are seeking a miracle. They don’t want to change; they want the world to change to suit them.
Some people want and expect the world to conform to their belief about how things “should be,” rather than accepting the various realities of life that they dislike. When taken to the extreme, the individual essentially creates and lives in a fantasy of “what I need to believe,” rather than coping with what truly is.
Citation: Excerpt – Dr. Ginger E. Blume, Ph. D.